Too much of a good thing?
When I was young, we were fortunate to have a lot of toys. A LOT of toys. An entire room full of toys. And while this was thanks to the kind giving natures of our obsessively ambitious workaholic parents, I did wonder why we needed to keep going shopping all the time when I only liked to played with one or two favourites.
‘Too much’ of anything can become a burden.
I remember stuffing things into a cupboard and actually tying the doors shut with ribbon to keep them closed. And I recall feeling very frustrated about all that stuff.
However, I like having stuff. I’m a bit Victorian in that way, with pretty knick knacks and collectables organised around on surfaces. As an adult I can now olympic level organise, but even with my organising talents gold-medal standard, I still find that I have too much stuff.
Do some of us learn to organise to avoid our stuff habits?
I think there’s a balance to be found for all of us who want to be happy with what we have, but not feel overwhelmed by having too much to organise well. Minimalism isn’t for everyone.
As I honed my organisation habits over the years since tying that childhood knot, I realised that I always seemed to get more stuff but still use only a few things every day. Just as when I was a girl.
I hadn’t dealt with my stuff-itis, I’d just figured out a way to skillfuly manage it.
Yet I still wear very few items of clothing every day. I discovered that I totally fall short of coming close to wearing the 33 items for the Project 333 fashion challenge (33 items for 3 months) and have subsequently accepted that I’m more of a ‘uniform’ type of stylista – with black and white bases being my fave, and then scarves or accessories layered on top.
This suddenly changed my emotional understanding of my personal style. And my clinging to stuff.
Writing out the Project 333 list of 33 items triggered this awakening, and really gave me clarity on the style I feel most fabulous wearing; my personal style.
I realise it truly is more me than any of the fast fashion styles that are flaunted in ads and shops, and that suddenly made me feel comfortable knowing what I wanted to keep, and letting go of anything that didn’t fall in line with that.
I highly recommend visiting the Project 333 website to feel the vibe!
So what does this mean for all my stuff?
Well, firstly it seemed to activate some logic part of my brain that had been clinging to ‘I’ll wear it one day’ fashion – which is my main focal area of stuff.
Secondly my ‘uniform’ style of dressing is pretty constant and versatile – so suddenly everything that doesn’t fit that style became very clear.
Thirdly, I asked myself – do we really need more than five of anything in our clutter area? And realised probably not. The items we have probably serve multiple purposes just fine.
So out things go!
I’ve kept items that fit me right now for daily use and pieces I just think are fabulous from my ‘natural size’ wardrobe one size down, which I’d love to fit back into by the end of this year. But I’m amazed how much easier it’s been to say ‘this really isn’t my style any more’.
Accepting where I’m at now is a key part of my voracious journey of personal betterment, and I believe that stuff and financial stuff are intertwined. Physically and energetically.
Kooky or not, there’s been a huge flow of abundance into our lives in the week since I started feeling this wish to cleanse and clarify my energy around stuff, finances and organising and make sure that each area complements each other as well as possible, instead of being out of balance like they were.
I’m never going to be a minimalist, and that’s okay. I’m a Victoriana girl and will always have a lot of belongings, but I’d like to move towards only having items I love in my life and letting go of things I don’t. In all areas.