Ever feel stressed, frustrated or just depressed trying to figure out what to wear, or find what you want in your wardrobe?
Sometimes we just feel crappy in our clothes. Other times we’re overwhelmed by the amount of clothing we have, thinking ‘if I only had more storage space’!
But you may not actually need that – as my sister discovered when I helped her organise her clothes this way and then she had an entire extra armoire she didn’t need to use anymore. So sometimes it’s just a combo of these 6 reasons below that causes wardrobe stress.
Will one or more of these reasons be yours?
There’s probably a simple solution to solve all your woes, so have a peek and see whether any (or a few) of these reasons are stressing you out!
1. The wrong STYLE of clothes
Good essentials that suit our bodies are a must. But fast fashion can make us think we need to stay on trend, even when current fashions don’t suit us. So think about it – what basic styles look great on you and are comfortable for you to wear?
I love the idea of fine straps and lace but with my broad wide shoulders they makes me look way more bulky than I am, so I stick with flattering full lace sleeves, racerback tops and other styles that make the most of my athletic angles. Whenever I try to wear thin straps I feel a bit silly, like I’m way bigger than I am. And there’s no need to ever feel that!
Do you have too many items that aren’t your style?
Perhaps you love them but they don’t suit you as much as other items? Stick with the items that suit your body and are flattering. You’ll find it much easier to look in the mirror and feel fabulous. And that’s the goal!
2. Inefficient organisation
If you haven’t categorised items together, you might have an organisation question to ask yourself.
A well organised wardrobe displays items clearly and is easy to choose from. Is this your wardrobe?
Ask yourself – is my stuff as well organised as it can be?
Many people think they have ‘nothing to wear’ because they’ve forgotten about many of their clothes, or have so much stuff it’s hiding all the best wearable items! Most of us can’t list every item of clothing we have from memory, which means we have more than we need.
But how to organise? I start with donating all the clothes that are for the ‘No’ or ‘Maybe’ pile (remember, if it’s a MAYBE, it’s a NO!) then put the YES items together by type. Trousers with trousers, dresses with dresses, blouses with blouses – anything not hanging I ROLL so they’re standing rolled in the drawer, visible for future wears. I personally prefer standing rolling style to folding because I can access clothes without messing up other clothes.
Could your wardrobe be better organised?
I use grid drawer dividers for all of my singlets/camis, blouses and other tops – it keeps them neat and standing, is super space efficient and makes it so easy to just roll and store. Clothes that get worn the most go into the front corner of the drawer together, or at the front of the hanging pile. This is a good way to see how many clothes aren’t getting worn. Then I make sure my winter-only clothes are stored away for when they’re needed. Shoes are together by type (heels, sneakers, boots) and bags are on a shelf or a nifty wardrobe handbag hanging organiser. Voila!
3. Wrong SIZE of clothes
Nobody feels great in clothes that fit too tightly, so why not consider buying items that are up to two sizes bigger? Slouchy button down shirts and loose blouses look great loose, and shorts that are slightly loose have a slimming illusion.
Plus they feel so much more comfy than super tight fit, and it’s great to know that you look fabulous.
Do you need to check whether you are lacking loose fit items in your wardrobe?
I have both snug fit and loose fit clothes in my wardrobe so I can choose depending on my body’s mood. If I’m feeling bloated or moody, I’ll go with the looser items.
A white button down shirt or blouse with slightly loose shorts and sneakers looks dreamy and carefree-sexy too. What easier outfit could there be?
4. Weak basic staples
If you don’t have a good foundation of basic staples, you’re always going to be stressed out!
Simple pieces like good black leggings or trousers, a simple white blouse, dressy shorts, a pencil skirt, everyday heel boots and other items (basics of a 20 Item Wardrobe) will make daily dressing fast, simple, and pleasurable. Then you layer your personality on top of the basics and rock that outfit!
Have you got the right basic staple items?
Crazy blazers, fun accessories, noisy scarves and other favourite feature pieces are good layering options. Or choose simple block colours for max versatility! Be sure to choose the most flattering basics possible for your body shape – well fitted, flattering to your body shape, in the right size and a colour that you’ll get the most wear out of.
5. Not enough flexible dress up/down items
If you only have sneakers for daytime and Louboutins for night, you might want to consider whether you’re missing the middle ground items that are flexible for both day and night. Having to choose between one or the other will usually see us choose the more comfortable option, or feel frustrated if we don’t want to be in sky-high heels all night. You only need a few of these reliable versatile pieces to make a big difference in choosing what to wear.
Do you have items you can transition from day to night?
Comfy boots like Timberlands Glancy heels have super wearable rubber soles (below) and are brilliant for walking around in the day, while looking rather rockstar/supermodel when dressed up with leggings + a fitted cami and blazer at night. And thigh high boots even better! Over leggings in the day and with shorts or a dress at night.
Are you missing good flexible day/night items?
Versatile jewellery is also a must in this category – simple pearls or glam accessories that can liven up a simple evening outfit. I love to wear Nicole Miller Asscher cut earring studs daytime or night, as they’re so traditionally refined (think Grace Kelly/Jackie O) that they’re suitable for any occasion. A good fitted blazer, little black dress, and perfect flattering trousers/leggings fit into this category too.
6. Uncomfortable items
You’re never going to wear them, and if you do you’re going to be grumpy and annoyed. You probably knew it the first time you tried it on at home. Send them off into the donation pile. You’ll thank yourself.
Is it time to get rid of all your uncomfortable clothes?
This includes items that fit strangely, need constant adjustment, are too tight or for whatever reason require regular attention while wearing. You should be able to focus on life while you’re out, not on whether your clothes are behaving. Choose comfortable, well behaved clothes that fit and feel great.
Have you discovered why your wardrobe stresses you out?
Hopefully you noticed the simplicity of the solution too –
- Owning comfortable, figure flattering staple basics in the right size (or slightly loose)
- Well organised storage, with ‘maybe’ clothes on their way to donation!
With good storage for the great items that fit well and are comfortable every day, you’ll be able to find whatever you want to wear and feel great in it. Starting with the basic staples and layering on top is a great way to adjust your style for your mood while knowing that you look great at the foundation level.
For more ideas, check out Why I Want a 20 Item Wardrobe and How To Dress Like A Millionaire (When You’re On A Budget).